Let's start with a bit of history. I won't go all the way back to grade school except to share that in the 3rd grade I ran for student council. On election day, walking into our house with great enthusiasm, I told my mother and grandmother that I had come in 3rd place! When my grandmother asked how many were on the ballot my proud reply was "three!" Fortunately they were kind enough to not tell me that that actually meant "last place" (failure).
Moving on to Junior High and High School, confidence weakened and shyness took its place...not sure why this happened but it is not atypical, as you well know.
Then comes college, marriage, divorce (failure), masters degree, PhD work...next big "failure", remarried, children, back to finish PhD, political appointment, finished PhD, resigned from political appointment (failure), ran for a seat on the state house of representatives as a Democrat in a very red state and lost (failure). Whew, seems a bit overwhelming when it’s written down for everyone to read and yet it feels freeing at the same time. I shared this info with you to shine light on "why" I became an iPEC certified coach.
As a coach working with women in transition, this exercise helps identify what we carry around within our minds that stop us from moving forward. Coaching helps you to reframe these negative and energy draining beliefs (failures) into positive and empowering beliefs about who you are and what you can accomplish! So, how many failures are too many? Not a question even worth asking.
Would love to hear from you,
Kirsten Diederich PhD